(continuation of Chloe's topic: Love) One of my friends and I have had tension over their tendency to get easily suspicious of their object of affection. They believe that everyone does bad stuff to everyone else, that bad stuff happens to everyone, even if there isn't really a logical reason for it. They got hurt once and now they won't allow themselves to trust again because they are protective of their feelings. Rightly so, of course. Why would you put yourself out there if you could get hurt? If you could re-experience all of that loss and pain and confusion. Somehow thinking your not good enough or that its somehow your fault. Why would you even bother? No, your not going to bother. Your done with all this lovey-dovey trust-y stuff. It's not worth it... Right? (and this is all my opinion obviously, so please don't get offended or defensive, whoever you are) Wrong. I don't believe that here would be any POINT to life if there was no love. Love is the single most important thing. And love, any type of love, whether to your best friend or your favorite auntie, requires a certain amount of trust. You trust another human with your feelings, time, thoughts, to whatever extent. Most importantly (and most relevant to their situation) is emotional love, couples love, love love. The kind of love that drives people to the great and noble extremes of devastating loss and ecstatic happiness. If you found a love like that (believe me when I say that they have!) wouldn't you agree that both partners trusting with their whole heart is the only way to make it work? How can you love with your whole heart if you can't trust with your whole heart? Love is trust. They are so closely tied in a healthy relationship that you cannot happily have one without the other. I truly, honestly and wholeheartedly believe that. I also believe in the two of them and it would simply break my heart if a simple thing like trust brought them any more grief.
thoughts?
comment?
what are you own beliefs and how do they compare to mine or my friend's?
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